Happiness
Agency - Knowledge of Self - Healing of Emotional Wounds
Understory
Every human is born with a unique set of skills, values, aspirations and purpose.
Once we have healed our wounds, nothing can stop us in the way of expressing our purpose.
The Game of Life consists in creating as much value as possible for our community using those tools we were given.
More on the Game of Life soon with Understory!
“Every person goes through a journey of wounding.
Imagine a world where every person goes through a journey of healing.
Where happiness emerges from a collective, shared sense of inner peace.”
— Dimitri Douchin
Emotional Reprocessing Therapy (ERT)
Traditional “talk-therapy” like the ubiquitous cognitive behaviroural therapy are helpful in identifying dysfunctional patterns within our lives - a great first step to actualisation.
A next step would consist in identifying the wounds that have led us to create those dysfunctional patterns and to heal those deep, emotional, unconscious wounds at the root. We call them trauma, repressed emotions, the shadow, the core wound.
Some techniques such as EMDR or Maieusthesia - and the healing techniques from many Indigenous peoples - offer this healing and integration. I founded my own branch that I called Deep Emotional Reprocessing (DR / DER).
Watch this space for a new ERT platform soon!
Unhooked
Many of the habits we struggle to let go of began as ways of soothing a deeper hurt.
Unhooked is a recovery program for people seeking freedom from compulsive pornography use, born from my own journey of healing.
Rather than relying on willpower or shame, it looks beneath the behaviour to the emotional wounds that keep it in place.
As those wounds heal, the habit naturally loses its hold, making room for more presence, connection and purpose.
Offered through an online course, one-on-one sessions and a free YouTube channel, it is a private and compassionate path towards a more integrated life.
Dimitri has an Australian Diploma of Counselling (2018).
He has been helping men and women heal their emotional wounds and sexual issues for the past 10 years - working at his own practice and for an online Men’s Sexual Health Clinic (Vityl) - totalling more than 1000 client-contact hours. A key component of his research revolves around the creation and interpretation of the particular narrative and semiotics of sexual fantasies. He is a member of the Society of Australian Sexologists (2019).
Unpopular People Podcast:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qQ3H_fUgQn0
New Paradigm Intimacy Podcast:
https://podtail.com/fr/podcast/new-paradigm-intimacy/healing-from-pornography-sex-addiction-with-dimitr/
The Fanny Mechanic Podcast:
https://omny.fm/shows/the-fanny-mechanic/pornography-addiction-with-dimitri-douchin
Fantasy Analysis
Sigmund Freud changed our understanding of the psyche forever when he posited the existence of the Unconscious Mind, and some interpretations to sexual fantasies as expression of the subconscious.
At the individual level (and collective too), it is possible to analyse our Sexual Fantasies like we would analyse a beautiful painting. By combining semiotics, iconography, narratology and psychoanalysis, we can understand the origin of the sexual fantasies (why “they have chosen us” more so than why we have chosen them) and their fixation.
If the fantasy is undesirable in one’s life (i.e. its manifestation leads to actions that are non-consensual, illegal or impossible), Emotional Reprocessing Therapy (ERT) can help alleviate the fixation and move on to more integrated sexual behaviours, free from harmful sexual tendencies.
This has to be the richest, most beautiful, most fascinating science of them all! By diving into the realm of sexual fantasies, we dive into the quintessential fabric of what it is that makes us human.
More research, publications and guidance on this topic are coming in the future.
Qualitative Tapering
When people trying to overcome their addiction, they will typically try to go “cold turkey”, to stay away from the addictive behaviour or substance.
In traditional psychology, tapering is sometimes recommended, where the patient reduces their consumption of the addictive stimulus over time.
I would like to propose another method that I call Qualitative Tapering - whereby the client, instead of reducing the quantity of stimulation over time, will reduce the quality of the stimulation they receive over time, progressively weakening the attachment that they have to the addicting stimulus.
I have personally used this method for my own healing and recovery and I use it with my clients with a great level of progress.
More research about Qualitative Tapering is ongoing.